The Opposite of Love Is…

The other day I shared what I discovered about the concepts of Love and Hate. They are not opposing notions but opposite ends of the same emotional continuum.

What then, is the opposite of love?

Take moment and think about how you feel when you know you do not love something or someone. What is going on inside you?

Really. Take a moment. Think of a few different things, events or people you definitely never did love or hate either.

Well, maybe discerning your feelings on the spur of the moment is a tad more effort than you want to exert right now so I will tell you the opposite of love is apathy.

Apathy means not caring one way or the other.

When you feel apathy toward a person or thing you just plain do not feel affected by whether or not that person of thing exists in your world.

Apathy is not a good thing. Apathy is not a bad thing. It simply is a lack of feelings, of emotions, regarding something in particular.

Did you ever learn, many years later, that someone had a mad crush on you and you had no idea, maybe hardly knew the person at all? You felt apathy toward that individual who never made his or her feelings known to you.

Or maybe you were the someone with the crush and the focus of your heart’s desire didn’t even know you exist. So he or she was apathetic toward you—even if you said hi.

Whether or not someone knows you exist is up to you.

If you want to know someone better, or at all, with whom you have never really talked then decide to go up to that person and start a conversation.

The worst thing that can happen is that person continues to be apathetic toward you.

But what if that person was waiting and hoping to talk with you and thought you had no desire to meet him or her? Then you do both of you a favor, yes?

Interesting that many people go through life thinking they are not good enough or interesting enough or popular enough or you fill in the blank enough to meet people they really do want to know – but want to know.

They prejudge the other person unfairly assigning prejudices and opinions to someone they do not even know. Of course the outcome means they hurt themselves by blocking any opportunity to fulfill their hidden desire.

Do you have experiences in either of those scenarios? What action did you take or fail to take? How do you feel when you think about those days? Tell us about it.

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      I was there. I was a full out flower child writing and singing my awareness/protest songs about war, discrimination and human rights issues. What volatile times those were. I remember when all my Suddenly Black friends took Muslim names and avoided me to protect me from attack. FRiends for 10 and more years–and we could no longer be friends in the open. Crazy times!

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