What if you wrote down every event, all across your life from birth until now, that you perceived as painful, then looked for the gift of who you got to become because of what happened?
The pain turns out to be the motivating force that led to soul growth.
The woman who lives in a an abusive relationship finally leaves (not an easy step to take). She got to decide that being mistreated was not acceptable to her. She chose to step into her strength and change her passive life.
She recognized how powerful she is, that no one can take away her power without her permission. And even then no one can really take anything from you except through perception.
That formerly abused woman may eventually become a role model and teacher for other abused women. She probably helps others see how much they too deserve to be treated well.