Happy people know how to respond to negative events. Yes, even happy people experience crummy circumstances sometimes.
Ignoring deep emotional feelings or burying them never serves anyone.
That habit will lead to major health issues down the road.
So, then how can you express your pain, anger, frustrations, etc. and quickly move forward with your life?
When the event happens go into your emotions–and set a timer.
What? A timer?
Yes. Set a timer for five minutes. During those five minutes do what Jeff Paul dubbed the Five Minute Wallow. Feel sorry for yourself. Feel the deep emotions racing through you. Cry. Shout. Do whatever you feel like doing to deal with your feelings about the situation.
Then, when the timer goes off you stop. You just stop the self pity, You stop the yelling. You stop the feelings of anger and frustration.
Well, why would you want to do that?
You want to stop the emotional rant for many reason. These two matter most:
1. What you focus on expands. When you feel angry you attract more anger to you.
2. When you get stuck in emotions your ability to find a workable solution disappears. You cannot rant and rage while resolving the issue. Not possible. Your brain cannot live two opposing experiences in the same moment.
Next time something awful or something aggravating crosses your path instead of ruining your day (or your life) take five minutes to feel the upset. Then take proactive action to put it behind you. Oh yes, and leave it in your past.